TLDR: My dad gave me his old i phone for a birthday gift and I found out hes been paying scammers for years.
Back story. My parents got divorced and my dad moved to a new state. fast forward, my dad has been dating Sandra for years now, and he has always made it seem she is just a town away from him and everything is going great. I supported this move because it made him happy to talk about her, but since he gives so much TMI, I am not interested in asking too many questions. The way he explained it, he has several GFs. He goes over for dinner and they have sex later. I truly thought this was all it was. My dad and I talk every other week on the phone, and he visits us regularly.
Suddenly, he is having to go over finances before he can visit, and is cancelling trips due to money problems. He is an adult, and still all there mentally, so I don’t even question these types of calls. Im broke, and my dad was a factory worker his whole life, not a lawyer, so money problems are just assumed. Then covid.. Anyway, his last visit, he brought up his new iphone 13, and wanted to give me his old iphone 10. He left the sim card in it, but all you really have to do is just swap em and it should work if the phone is unlocked.. Fortunately, his phone is locked, and swapping didnt work, so i got him to give me his passcode so i could get the IMEI number. A quick check of his email, because my dad is now in his 70s, and this is the result.
We have literally had face to face conversations about not paying people he hasn’t met, not paying anyone in gift cards, and, since I am into crypto, not paying anyone in crypto through email that he hasn’t met. He looked me in the eye and said he understood, and only uses the crypto to buy weed seeds. Cool, problem solved. Nope. He literally went home and paid them a week later with either option in more than one instance.
Romance scam. My dad has been paying this account $600 – 800 and others close to “her” in google cards, and bitcoin every month for about 3 years now. He believes they are married and he is packing his bags for Ghana as soon as the million dollar check arrives in his name. He has taken out loans to pay them, in hopes that his credit improves enough to take out another loan to pay them. This one is so scary, and he is caught in such a web this actually hurts more than financially.
I don’t give a fuck about the money. My dad is an extremely shy and sensitive person. He has also had an overwhelming life since his dad died when he was 5, or when he forged papers at 17 to join the army to go to Vietnam only to watch a friend get burned alive in front of him. When he feels he is being threatened, he resorts to explosive violent tempers in a heartbeat. When I told him about this being a scam, it was the first time he had ever hung up on me. It wasn’t the last.
He has an established friendship with several accounts who speak with him multiple times a week, not including the gold scam he got roped into for 20k just 3 years ago.
Accounts included in this scam are
Of course dad has to pay taxes up front to the tune of roughly 20k on this new check that he is required to pay before receiving, which he is about 12k paid up in bitcoin to
My dad does not get along well with this account, as the internal revenue service boss wants to keep raising his rates, but its ok, his “good friend”
will deal with all the court orders and the internal revenue service boss and making any payments to the irs along with passing money off to his wife, sandra, who is constantly either falling ill and collapsing (and needing another google pay card or bitcoin payment) or falling into trouble with the police mans son who said bad things about her to the judge and is now in legal trouble..
Money aspect aside, my dad is now convinced he is married to this woman, and is literally waiting until his credit is just a little better a few months from now before packing up and moving to Ghana, West Africa, to be with his new family. They contact him every morning to see how hes doing and when he can have the next payment ready. My dad has sent them pictures of us, his real family. I have tried talking to my dad and I certainly apologized for snooping, I told him I loved him and I am only trying to help, but he is extremely upset with me and simply says he is angry and has to go and then hangs up. This is only the second attempt, so hopefully it sinks in soon.
The first thing I did, since I have access to my dads email now, is block all the accounts that were trying to contact him and I have been actively deleting them when they arrive in the spam box. They are catching on, but gmail has a chat feature that my dad is still able to contact the sandra account on, and is still talking with her. For some reason, I have blocked that, but it didnt work.. I have asked him if he has ever received any official IRS letter with the official IRS seal, and I can now see that he has emailed asking for one from one of the accounts I have just blocked. I sent him the official Ghana IRS website with a phone number to call, which I am hoping he will do tomorrow. What else can I do? These people are a THREAT and I would welcome any help/advice at this point.
* I am currently working 60+ hours a week, so if I am not able to reply right away, please dont be mad, Im just very busy these days. Thank you.
The content was posted by Antique-Lead-8116 on 2021-11-12 03:00:22 via reddit